Growing Older Together . . .

“She let it go. She was ready to vibrate higher and become a magnet for miracles. Now she is in this place where everything feels right. Her heart is calm. Her soul is lit. Her vision is clear. She is at peace with where she has been. And at peace with where she’s headed.”

“God will lead and guide us through each season of our lives. All seasons are beautiful and give us the opportunity to embrace change, to shed our old ways, and become renewed in spirit.”

“To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under Heaven.” Ecclesiastes 3:1

“This is the day the Lord has made, let us rejoice and be glad in it.” Psalm 118:24

“Gray hair is a crown of glory; it is gained in a righteous life.” Proverbs 16:31

“Even to your old age I am he, and to gray hairs I will carry you. I have made, and I will bear; I will carry and will save.” Isaiah 46:4

Growing older has really been on my mind and in my heat recently, especially since January of this year which is the year of my 65th birthday. I will turn 65 on July 23, and on January 1st I started being inundated with emails and snail mail that reminded me of the fact that I will turn 65 this year. Reminding me that I will be eligible for Medicare on July 1st, 2021. Almost every single day of this year someone has reminded me of my age, so how can it not be on my mind.

How could I possible be turning 65? My nephew has teased me for years about being old, but this is really it. I am getting old. It also really hit me though that if I am going to be 65 in July, then that means Steve will be 70 in October. Some might say we are in the winter season of life, but to me that has a negative connotation. I like to think that we are in the more relaxed, quiet time of life. We have a lot more time for each other, we enjoy the simpler moments, and we just enjoy being with each other.

With the realization that we are getting older, also came some self-reflection. Am I sad to be in this stage of life? Absolutely not! I have lived a very full life, I met goals I set for myself, I have achieved dreams I had as a young girl, and I have been loved, not once, but twice by two incredible men. I have worked since I was 15 years old, and now enjoy being retired. We raised three children and supported them through the decisions they have made in life. We have three precious grandchildren. Our life is too full of the many blessings God has given us and the things we have achieved to be sad about getting older.

My dream as a young girl was to meet the man of my dreams, fall in love, get married, raise a family, and grow old together. I am living that dream.

God’s plan for my life involved meeting and loving two men, starting a young family, saying goodbye way too soon to the first husband, saying I love you and forever to the second husband, blending one incredible family, watching our grandchildren grow, and growing older together with my love.

Growing older together with Steve is a blessing for which I am eternally grateful. Almost 33 years together has taught us many lessons about relationships. We have been growing together throughout our years together, growing in our relationship with God and with each other. We have grown our family together; children, their spouses, and grandchildren. We have grown through sickness and health. We have grown through life changes, death of loved ones, and emotional challenges. We have been growing together our entire marriage, now we are just growing “older together’ and my prayer is that we grow older together gracefully and give praises to God for all the blessings he has given us.

Life at this stage of life just looks different but it is still full of love, laughter, music, God, and family! Our granddaughter says, “Papa, your hair is white like milk.” She is right, it is pure white. I like to think it is white with delight in a life well lived, a family he loves, and a bright future together. After all, Steve says we still have about 60 more years together! ♥

We have learned over the years that a sense of humor is vital in a strong marriage, even more so as you grow older together. Steve and I laugh often, with each other mostly, although there have been times when I just laugh at him, right along with our grandson, because he is acting so crazy or singing a silly song. From the very beginning of our relationship, we have kidded around with each other. His mother used to get so concerned that I would get mad at him when he was teasing me, but the joking and kidding around with each other just shows how much trust we have in each other, how comfortable we are in our relationship, and how much we both understand the importance of laughter. When my mother lived with us, she would jump right in and kid around with him at every opportunity. She was so quick-witted, and their relationship was so special. I think I miss that most about her not being with us anymore, her laughter and her kidding around with Steve. Becoming my mother’s caregiver was a role we both accepted and committed ourselves too. Mother living with us for six years just made our marriage stronger and we are so blessed for having her love, her laughter, and the memories within our home and through our family.

As we grow older together, I think we enjoy the small, quiet moments more now than ever before. Just sitting with each other inside or outside on the deck, listening to music, driving places, having quiet conversations, or just watching TV are moments that after all the years of raising our children, working hard to provide for our family, and taking care of our home, we appreciate so much more now in this stage of our lives.

Growing older together comes with many more aches, pains, and groans than our earlier years. We cannot do all the things we used to do. Steve jokes that one day we will be riding around on our matching scooters racing each other, but the reality is that we both have moments of pain and discomfort that we did not have when we were younger. Some mornings our aches, pains, and groans are in perfect harmony with each other, and we just smile at each other, and ask each other if we can do anything to help. Usually, there is a little chuckle that goes along with the groans and the smiles. When one of hurts more than the other, then we encourage and support in whatever way we can. After all, we promised to love and cherish, in sickness and in health.

Through all the years that have come and gone, through all the aches and pains, through all the gray hair, and all the fluctuation in weight, Steve still says every single day, that I am the most beautiful woman in the world. He even has Alexa remind me every day at 11:30 on every Alexa in the house. He constantly tells me He loves me and that he never gets tired of looking at me or looking into my eyes or seeing the beautiful smile on my face. He makes me feel loved and cherished every day.

I fall in love with him more as time goes by – how could I not when he takes care of me and our family with such love and care? How could I not fall in love with him more each time he smiles at me or when he looks at me in that special way of his? How could I not fall more in love with him as time goes by when he touches my hand with his gentle touch? How could I not love him more each time we share those quiet, simple moments of life? The love he brought to my life in 1988 is still there every single moment of every day, and grows stronger as time goes by.

I remember watching my grandparents as a child and teenager, and thinking I want to be like them when I am older.

  • They were such hard workers.
  • They took care of each other.
  • They had a family that loved them and took care of them.
  • They loved Christ.
  • They loved each other.
  • They enjoyed the simple moments: swinging on the front porch, having family around, laughing, singing, dancing, and just enjoying each day.

Then there were my parents, and I remember the times I would catch them holding hands, hugging each other in comfort and tenderness, dancing with each other, or just the way they would look at each other. I remember the way they loved the Lord, and they lived it in every facet of their lives. I remember how hard they worked to provide for our family, but I also remember the enjoyment they had with each other in their later years, and that they just enjoyed their quiet moments. I would think I want that too in my older years.

Look at us now!

God brought us together!

It is His love for us that keeps us strong and in love with each other.

Growing older together is a beautiful place to be in life.

I am blessed to grow older together with the love of my life.

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